There is absolutely nothing that stresses out people more than stress itself! Stressed by Stress; sounds funny when we put it across this way. But introspecting our daily living and the way we go about it, it is not that hard to see that there is only one thing that causes stress; it is stress itself.
So how does it work? How do we manage to efficiently create stress and conveniently put ourselves in the middle of it? All of us are great stress generating machines. The machine is so efficient that it can convert anything to stress. It is a magical machine, even when you put gold and diamond into it, it can convert it into garbage and spew it out.
Why we get stressed has nothing to do with the content or the context of our lives; it has everything to do with how we have learned to react to situations. It is actually that simple. Stress exists only as a memory of how we have been impulsively reacting to things happening around us.
Just give it a thought for a moment. Is there any other form of stress other than an impulsive sudden reaction to something that has happened the way you had not expected? When you are expecting things to happen in a certain way around you and when it doesn’t happen, you are stressed. We unnecessarily stress ourselves because we have not learnt how to handle this moment.
Another very important thing to notice and understand is that you are not alone in this great endeavor of generating stress. Every single person irrespective of how good or bad they are in handling situations has experienced stress. To put it mildly every; everybody is stressed.
“Man goes to doctor. Says he’s depressed. Says life seems harsh and cruel. Says he feels all alone in a threatening world and he is totally stressed. Doctor says the treatment is simple. The great clown Terrifini is in town tonight. Go and see him. That should pick you up. Man bursts into tears: “But doctor . . . I am Terrifini.”
So relax, everybody is stressed. When we first accept and acknowledge that stress is a part of everybody’s life, we will be able to clearly see the problem, instead of blaming ourselves. A stressful individual is not a sinner, he is just a victim of circumstances and a victim of how he has grown up accumulating and generating stress.
The first thing we need when we meet a stressful person, including ourselves, is compassion. With understanding, compassion and effort, we will be able to go beyond stress. All it takes is absolute acceptance that you are generating stress unnecessarily and you can accomplish all the things you are trying to accomplish by being much less stressful.
We use stress as an excuse for trying to achieve something great. We tell ourselves that the more stressed we are, the greater the task we are trying to accomplish. This is so far away from the truth. There is no great task out there in the world that is worth stressing yourself about. There is another way to accomplish great things; by learning to be cool, calm, collected and rooted in the moment.