One of the most difficult things to deal with in human interactions is learning how to handle expectations. It might not seem like a very important issue to deal with, but when looked at closely you will realize that if you have not learnt how to handle the expectations of people around you, it pretty much affects everything you do.
Most of the time you might not even be aware that your actions are driven by the expectations of people around you. Expectations go much deeper than the conscious mind, it affects your subconscious. If you don’t observe the expectations that are shaping your thought process and actions, they simply slip into the subconscious and quietly affect all your important actions.
Just to give an example. Imagine that there is someone very important in your life who you want to impress; let us say, your father, mother, teacher, wife etc. Without being aware of the fact that it is very important for you to impress this person, you start aligning your life to gain that person’s acceptance. Without your knowledge, almost every single action of yours becomes entangled with the emotion of impressing someone. This will adversely affect your performance.
Being creative is very important to be able to deal with daily challenges of preparation. Creativity always expresses itself best through a clear and free mind. When you are constantly entangling yourself with this one dominant emotion of impressing someone, then you cannot take chances and go beyond the way to achieve what you want to achieve.
Expectation creates fear and fear is not good for creative thinking. Most people are not even aware that they are not mentally free to think clearly and take decisions boldly. Sometimes the only way out of tricky situations is to think boldly and courageously. You can be courageous only when you are mentally free and not bound by unnecessary expectations.
This is where it becomes very important to observe your own expectations and try and see if it is linked to somebody else. When you figure out the source of your expectations and go beyond them, something magically transforms your thinking and actions. When you go beyond expectations, you become tremendously light to move swiftly and creatively.
There should be only one motive for your actions; it is to move towards a certain goal. The objective should never be to impress yourself or someone else. When you make this attitude change from working to impress someone, to working for reaching your goals, everything begins to fall into place and align itself. A mind that is not burdened by expectations is free to focus on what needs to be done. When expectation goes, fear of failure goes and mind becomes free to think and act clearly.